A spiritual and above all festive period, the month of Ramadan turns into a painful month for some childless men and women.
The month of Ramadan is a month of hope, spirituality with a capital S, and of making wishes, a lot of wishes even if it is forgiveness that we should be seeking first.
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I wrote this piece in French as an introduction to this blog in 2020.
Am I ready? Am I spiritually ready not to have children? Have I been prepared for the possibility of not having children?
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Se retrouver face à soi-même ! Un vrai défi pour beaucoup de monde ! Être entouré.e de bruits pour éviter cette confrontation c’est l’histoire de la vie d’un grand nombre d’entre nous ; pourtant cette confrontation avec soi constitue la seule porte d’entrée de la spiritualité.
La vie sans enfant que ce soit par choix ou par circonstance nous force quelque part à entamer notre voyage spirituel plus tôt que les autres. Les questions dites existentielles frappent nécessairement à nos portes sans que des enfants nous servent de distraction ou d’excuse pour ne jamais ouvrir cette porte et nous retrouver avec nous-mêmes.
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Nowadays, it is easy to think that God made a mistake in letting childless men and women walk on the planet. We can also imagine that those who want children and fail (whatever their conditions) do not give themselves the means to conceive them and that people who do not want them are suffering from a disease still unknown.
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« Muslim women cannot marry non-Muslims! » This idea, widely disseminated and accepted as an interpretation of verse 5 sura 5, surely contributes to social infertility in Muslim communities.
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« Families only », « family friendly », « bring your family », « he/she has a family now! », « come with your family! », « I have my own family » … You have seen or heard these expressions. These expressions, in our time, discriminate. The reason is simple: the word family regularly refers to a couple with at least one child or a single parent.
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By Divine command[1], the wives of the Prophet’ after his death remained unmarried. Some of them have lived a long life, single. Therefore, it seems implausible that Muslim communities, like societies in general, discredit celibacy and belittle single people.
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« S’en remettre à la volonté divine », c’était l’un des thèmes de la World Childless Week 2022.
La volonté divine, impossible de l’oublier dans nos communautés musulmanes, on le rappelle avec enthousiasme dans nos interjections : inshaAllah(Si Dieu le veut), mashaAllah(Ce que Dieu veut), fisabillilah(Dans le chemin de Dieu). On répète ces expressions dans certains cas en de nombreuses occasions. Nous considérons le Divin omnipotent. On loue Dieu l’unique.
Le shirk, autrement dit, associer au Divin des partenaires, représente LE péché impardonnable. On s’en croit prémuni, bien sûr ; qui associerait quelqu’un à Dieu dans les communautés musulmanes ?
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Despite the title of « mother of believers, » some Prophet’s wives lived childless.
This expression « mother of believers » comes from the Qur’an (Sura 33 verse: 6). This name makes the wives of the Prophet Muhammad illegitimate as a wife after his death. The term « mother » becomes symbolic.
The prophet’s wives have the status of maternal figures, even if among them some have never given birth. This is sobering: the title of « mother » can be given without childbirth.
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Childless and Childfree Muslim women and men, speak out! Make yourself heard anonymously or not, but let people know how you feel. No one will express it for you. No one can guess if one does not live it.
Family and friends can surround childless men and women; especially women childless by circumstance, without suspecting what they are going through: multiple miscarriages, returning from hospital without the child they carried for months. They don’t know what it feels like to sit in a waiting room in the gynaecological ward next to pregnant women with their partners when you are unsuccessfully trying to conceive a child or are prevented from doing so by illness.
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